CoffeeChat 44 – Mirror

Edition  44

Mirror

Last Edition Recap
How have you applied the last edition to your life?
Opening Prayer
Perfect Lord God, You are without blemish and perfect in all ways; remind us that we are not perfect, and remind us that we rely wholeheartedly on Your grace, not on our desires or judgements. Amen.
Introduction
When did you last look into a mirror? We check our appearance, fix what’s wrong, ensure we’re presentable. But what about spiritual mirrors? The fox caught in a trap lost his tail escaping. Ashamed, knowing others would mock him, he considered suicide. Instead, he called a meeting, advising all foxes to remove their tails: “They’re ugly, heavy, tiresome. We must get rid of them.” One clever fox responded: “Good sir! You wouldn’t be so keen to give that advice if you weren’t tailless yourself. Isn’t it?” Hypocrisy seldom works. Definition: “The practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behaviour does not conform; pretence.” Billy Sunday said: “Hypocrites in the Church? Yes, and in the lodge and at the home. Don’t hunt through the Church for a hypocrite. Go home and look in the mirror. Hypocrites? Yes. See that you make the number one less.” Thomas Fuller adds: “We ought to see far enough into a hypocrite to see even his sincerity.” The mirror doesn’t lie. It shows what is, not what we wish. The question isn’t whether there are hypocrites in church—there are. The question is whether you’re looking in the mirror or just pointing at others.
Chat Point 1
  1. When was the last time you looked into a mirror, and why do we look into mirrors?
  2. What is the purpose of a mirror—physical and spiritual?
  3. How do you feel about hypocrites in the church?
  4. Have you experienced someone telling you to do something whilst doing the opposite themselves?
  5. How does hypocrisy affect the faith and witness of Christianity?
Read
Jude 1, Luke 6:37-42
Key Focus
Luke 6:38c – “…For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
Chat Point 2
  1. What stood out about Jesus’s teaching on logs and specks in eyes?
  2. Why is it so easy to hate hypocrites yet justify our own hypocrisy?
  3. Why are we not allowed to judge anyone according to these passages?
  4. What hypocritical things have you identified in your church context (e.g., claiming to serve but not serving)?
  5. How can we practically help one another avoid hypocrisy?
Final Thought
The tailless fox couldn’t bear others seeing his loss, so he tried making everyone like him. We do the same—justifying our failures by pointing at others’, demanding standards we don’t keep, preaching sermons we don’t live. “Looking into the mirror, what are you doing that is hypocritical to the faith of Christianity?” The hard question cuts deep. Is your hypocrisy more acceptable than the person you’ve labelled a hypocrite? Jesus warns in Luke 6:37-42 about judging with logs in our eyes whilst criticising specks in others’. The measure we use will be measured to us. Jude 1:17-23 calls us to save others from fire whilst hating even clothing stained by corrupted flesh—but first, we must look in the mirror. Your church has hypocrites. Your small group has hypocrites. Your mirror has one too. The difference between destructive and redemptive hypocrisy isn’t perfection—it’s honesty. The fox denied his loss and tried hiding it through deflection. The humble admit their taillessness and seek grace. Which are you? The Church doesn’t need perfect people; it needs honest ones who look in mirrors before pointing fingers.
My Action
What key insight or learning from this session resonates most with me, and what do I sense God is inviting me to do in response?
Shared Prayer
What are your prayer requests?​
Closing Prayer
Lord Jesus, forgive us for quickly claiming we serve You yet being unwilling to serve; remind us we’re as flawed as others and teach us not to judge hypocritically. Amen..
In-Between Chats: Personal Reflection
  1. Looking into the mirror, what are you doing that is hypocritical to the faith of Christianity?
  2. Is your hypocrisy more acceptable than the person you have labelled a hypocrite—and why do you think so?
  3. How are you planning to repair your hypocritical ways to move toward being more truthful in your faith?
Edition Writer: Rev Kevin Zondagh

Methodist Minister, Personal Development Specialist, Life Coach, Relationship Coach and Executive Coach. Founder and Owner of Exemplar Coaching Pty Ltd and CoffeeChatConnect. "We should have the desire to custom design the only life we have. After-all, we buy designer everything. How much more should we Live by Design, not by default?"